I love the Men in Black movie trilogy. I have many memories of staying up way past bedtime and watching the first movie while forcing my eyes to stay open, despite knowing exactly what was going to happen next. I also remember how excited I was when the second and third movies came out. It’s been a while since I have watched any of the movies but they will always bring fond memories for me.
There is a scene in Men in Black 3 that I have been thinking about a lot since starting this journey. During my first treatment, I sat down and watched the entire Men in Black 2 movie because I thought the scene that I was looking for was in there. About halfway through, I realized it wasn’t – oops! I didn’t own MIB3 at the time but couldn’t shake this scene from my mind. I eventually ordered the DVD for super cheap. While recovering from my last treatment, I watched the movie – and fell in love with it all over again.
One of the characters in the movie can predict the future but that prediction is based on what happens immediately before that particular future. There is a scene in the movie where we meet this character, Griffin, and learn about his abilities. We also learn the downstream impacts of something as “simple” as a fight between two people. The scene is used to demonstrate Griffin’s abilities and set the scene for the rest of the movie.
I love Griffin’s character, not only because of his quirkiness but because of what he represents – the impact that our actions have on the future. We are blessed with free will and therefore have the ability to choose what we want in life. Every decision that we make on a daily basis is setting the foundation – and the tone – for our future selves. Each decision also has the potential to impact others, positively or negatively. We may or may not ever see the impacts that our actions have, but that doesn’t mean that they aren’t there or that they don’t happen.
Sometimes I wonder what actions I took or decisions that I made that brought me to the life that I have today, including my diagnosis. I let my mind wander, ever so slightly, to my past and what may have led me here. I don’t let myself get far though. Despite my diagnosis and the fight that I am in currently, I wouldn’t change a thing. I have made my fair share of mistakes in life but all of those decisions, all of those actions, all of those mistakes, brought me to where I am today. And that today is filled with more love than I ever could have dreamed of in my earlier years. The today that I live in has moments of sadness, frustration and tears – but it also has an overwhelming amount of love, laughter and happiness.
You see, my friends, the future that we create for ourselves is based on the life that we decide to live today. I feel that the more happiness and love that we fill this world with, the more we will be blessed with in our futures.
Merry Christmas Eve, everyone. Hug your families and smile brightly today and always.